Sexual intimacy and Family life

This week of discussion was focused on Sexual intimacy and Family life. Something in this life that we face is our sexual desires. Surprisingly enough it plays a part to have a happy marriage that everyone wants in their life, although it should be regarded with much care and attention. The care that must be put into it is one that people rarely place. The once action held only in marriage has changed to something that people do for momentary happiness. Let me be clear this is not what will bring happiness to people. This happiness that people look for comes after when two people come together and become one. When their thoughts change from their selves to what they can do to help their spouse. This idea is thrown out the door with many people taking sex as something they can do in the meantime. Sadly this depiction started for many at younger ages due to encounters with pornography from curiosity or friends. This depicts sex as something that is prevalent and leads many to thinks as people as objects. This also leads to damage in marriage in which the one or the other may think of their spouse as an object in sex only to fulfill their every beck and call, and desires. In the end, it results in divorce or infidelity. A way to combat this is by giving our children at the so-called, “Talk.” Now pornography can be seen anywhere at any time, one day our children will see it and be misconstrue sex. If we give them the talk it will help them understand what sex is and will help them in the later future. Something also to be considered is that if a married couple does not take sex seriously it can damage their relationship. I say, for instance, the husband wants sex, but his wife does not since she is so tired, she should respect her and hold back that sexual desire and visa versa. Also, if one of you is uncomfortable doing something then express your discomfort and do not do it. Both husband and wife have a say in sex, in what they like and do not like. Due to our differences, it also plays a role in happiness in families, men usually rely on sexual intimacy to then be able to be warm, safe, and secure with their spouse. While for women, they like to first get warm, safe, and secure to then be able to have sexual intimacy. If both husband and wife do not realize this it will become a never-ending cycle in which one of them will never be able to be satisfied. Also if both partners understand about organisms it will help both of them to be able to have a better sexual experience. For men, it takes about ten seconds while for women it takes about twenty to thirty seconds. If men do not take that into account, they will in a sense have only their desires satisfied while their partner is left unsatisfied. Another natural occurrence in life is that men have been more allocated with being hyper-focused in one thing at a time. On the other hand, women have been allocated to being Multi-tasker in which they can think about so many things at the same time. This usually leads to problems in the family, since the wife is focused on the kids and other responsibilities, most men start to believe that she has no longer any interest in him. If they do engage in sex the women are more likely to first think about the children and other necessities needed to get done before the end of the day instead of sex. To be able to have a more fulfilling sex life there is much to be learned and I hope this helps.