Fathers and Finances

This week of class we discussed Fathers and Finances. In contrast to what the world may say and view fathers as being, they are an essential part of the structure of families. Some researchers have found that there has been a correlation between school shooters and the shooters having a loss in father-figure in their family. They indicate that without a dad as a role model the boys are unable to have a way to direct their ways of interacting with themselves and others. They start to indulge in videogames, pornography, and in essence, they start to become a destructive force according to what they have found. Boys are not the only ones that are affected by this as well. Girls are affected as well, they become more prone to promiscuity, depression, and self-harm. Fathers are naturally the provider in the family and are usually the breadwinners of the family. Providing can be able to make money for the family. It can also be described as providing in the sense that they can be able to take care of the finances that their family have. Although it is balanced between both the mother and the father, fathers are usually the ones that as noted to be the budgeter. Men are usually more hyper-focused on the activity that is taking their attention. This hyper-focus allows them to be able to go to work and come home and interact with their children as nothing happened. They can leave work at work and leave home at home. This is why for men it is a lot easier for them to be able to work, without feeling a sense of trouble that they didn’t do something at their job. It is interesting as well that we don’t need both parents to work usually. They have found that when both parents work there are more expenses the family has then there is again. This happens due to one of the jobs requiring the person to be well dressed, making the family spend on expensive clothes. Then many people believe that since they are both gaining a good amount of money, they can spend a bit more. Another thing that also affects their expenses is the false idea that if they can bring their family to something big like an amusement park once a year, they can make better relationships with their family. I’m not saying taking a vacation to go to places is bad with the family, but it shouldn’t be central in making the family happy and to be able to make relationships. From my own experience, it is when we are both working together, may we be sweating from hard labor or washing the dishes, that we can build relationships. In times like these, we can talk, joke around, and be able to teach one another. We both have the same goal of accomplishing something, we may be at different points in that goal, but it brings unity. I’m not here to point out that being a single mom, is bad. There may be big reasons why they are not with a male. I just want to point out that fathers must play a part in the family structure and are important just like mothers. I feel there is a wide-range of hate towards fathers, that people ridicule them and say they do nothing for the family. Another important thing that I would like to state is if you are not doing good financially, start to make changes to get on track. Ask yourself what is causing me to be bad financially? What can I do differently? What am I doing good?